The Silken Trap

There is this domme who runs a very popular online group.

I strongly suspect this domme is not a person who physically exists, but is an online persona constructed by someone with a deeply held fetish. I further suspect that the creator of this persona is not even female, but a male sub who is perhaps assuaging his own desperate longings by creating this dream dominatrix persona.

What makes me suspect that this "domme" is not a real person? Many, many things don't add up:

Her pictures are, almost without exception, obviously stolen content lifted from pornsites etc. The very few which she claims are of her/her sub could just as easily have been stolen.

Her descriptions of female sexual & relationship responses are grossly inaccurate. Her women are all instantly intrigued when they discover a guy is a sissy. They get wildly horny from nothing more than watching the sissy get dressed up and do his thing. They never have any hang-ups about taking multiple other male lovers, or seem particularly concerned about things like birth control and STDs. They cum at the drop of a hat as soon as a "real man" sticks a dick in them. If real women reacted like this, why would it be so hard for sissy guys to find a Mistress?

And do I even need to add that these "real men" are never anything but stunt cocks in this Mistress's tales? They appear as needed, as if ordered from Studs-R-Us, and vanish again as soon as the sex scene is over, with never any messy relationship issues, needs, or wants of their own.

All her claims are unrealistic at best. She claims to have a large manor-style house where she lives with her cuckolded sissy slave. Supposedly any woman who has a recalcitrant male in her life - be he husband, son, or even her own boss - can bring him to this domme and leave him there, where he will be forcibly restrained, beaten and tortured in various ways until he's transformed into the perfect sissy.

Keeping someone imprisioned against their will, beating them and using things like cattle prods on them, forcing them to undergo hormone treatments and sometimes surgery? Doing these things not only to consenting adult males but even to underage boys? In the real world these are CRIMINAL ACTIVITIES. How realistic does it seem that a domme would be able to engage in this level of publicly admitted criminal activity for years, with hundreds of victims, and not get in trouble with the law?

To the best of my knowledge, this domme has never met anyone in person. She claims to have met lots of people, and even posts letters allegedly from those people. But all these letters are posted by she herself, and are strangely similar to her own writing style. And in the several years I've been observing her I've never once seen a letter from any of the thousands of people that follow her that says so much as "thanks for writing me back". If she's "helped" so many other dominas and sissies wouldn't you think at least one of those people would have publicly thanked her?

Let me clarify that last point a little: people thank this domme all the time. They thank her for being an inspiration, for understanding what sissies long for. They thank her for posting her writings and running her groups. They even, sometimes, thank her for transforming all those sissies through the years. But never in a personal "oh, when I brought my husband to you he came back so much improved!" kind of way. Rather she gets thanked in the generic "you do so much for all us sissies" way. You know, like a random fan might thank any celebrity for "doing so much for their fans".

In her writings, which she always presents as true stories, people constantly do things that simply don't happen in real life. She writes, for example, of arranging weddings where the assembled vanilla guests don't bat an eyelash when the groom unexpectedly appears wearing a wedding dress. And then as soon as the ceremony is over the same vanilla guests line up to take a turn in the sissy husband's mouth right there in the church!

Now seriously, how can anyone who is not willfully deluding themselves think this is something that happens in real life?

But this "domme" tells equally outlandish stories All. The. Time. And all while continuing to proclaim that it's all 100% real, and that she has personally "helped" hundreds of sissy males and dominant women to find happiness. And this is the point at which it becomes difficult for me to stomach. Because at this point, she is not helping at all.

In fact, by giving so many men the idea that such an outlandish fantasy-domme really exists, and that these things really happen, this domme is actually hurting people. She is persuading real people to model their behavior and expectations on something that is fantasy. And that is not going to help the sissy guys who follow her find a real domme owner, I assure you.

I believe this domme is really the fantasy-contruction of a male submissive for one simple reason: none of her activities seem to ask for money. If there was a sales pitch somewhere along the line I would call her a faux domme who is selling a porn fantasy. Since there isn't, and since this sham has been running for a long time, I think it must be a case of a desperate submale who's found an unusual way to assuage his need. But the red flags in this case are highly illustrative of what to watch out for with other faux dommes.

And THAT is the reason I am writing about this here. I've deliberately not named names or posted links; I've no wish to "expose" her or get involved in a big internet drama. And I know perfectly well that if this faux-domme were to disappear tomorrow two more would pop up to take her place. But the falsehoods I see coming from her are typical of the breed. And judging from the breathless adoration of her fans, either a whole lot of people are playing along with the fantasy - or there's a whole lot of clueless sissy subs out there.

I believe rational people (I'm talking to YOU!) ought to be able to figure these things out for themselves. And I hope that my giving specifics about this one instance of fantasy passing as reality might help a few of those misled sissies get a clue.

Have you seen the anime series Ouran: High School Host Club yet?

If not, I urge you to check it out! It's HILARIOUS and has more gender tomfoolery in it than a barrel full of drag queens.

The premise is that a gender-ambivalent girl incurs an outrageous debt. To pay it off she starts working as a "host" which is basically a super-romanticized softcore boy-whore for rich girls. Cue all sorts of insanely silly scenarious revolving around gender & class expectations and teen romance.

One of the things I absolutely adore about this series (besides the loving way it spoofs both the romance genre and anime in general) is the way it presents sexual orientation as completely fluid. There's no discussion, it's not a big "Social Issue"...it's just taken for granted that OF COURSE all the characters, male, female, and in between, might develop romantic interests in any other character regardless of either party's gender.

Which leads to a lot of dreamy boy-on-dreamy boy action. *whistles innocently* Ouran: High School Host Club is available on streaming netflix right now. You can also find complete episodes on YouTube.

p.s. I think this is also a great choice for Mistresses who're looking for "femmy" media for mental restructuring/feminization purposes!