I am very fond of pointing out that there's a difference between loving somebody and being able to live with them.
Izzy and Shy have decided that although they love each other very much they're not able to
live together. I don't mean literally of course; residing in the same house was never even a possibility. But they've come to the decision that what they each wanted & needed from the relationship is incompatible with the necessities of each of their real lives. And they've decided to part ways, at least in the sense of being a D/s couple.
This makes me sad in ways I don't even have the words for.
Shy is fun, and bright, and
awfully sexy, and I will miss having her as a regular part of my life. And I'm not the only one; the kids love her and
she played SO well with Tia. Even my mom loves her. But I also can't deny the truth that yeah, things were just not...comfortable. Regardless of what they both
want, what she needs is very different from what he needs at this time.
I think a lot of people go through life feeling as if every breakup is a failure. I think one of the necessary features of a non-monogamous mindset is letting go of this, accepting that not every relationship is meant to be serious or last forever. It ALWAYS hurts when they end,
really fucking hurts, but still...having loved, and having been loved, is worth it.
And sometimes, if you're lucky and moderately sensible, you can come out of it friends. Very
special friends even...the sort of friends you can do things like this with:

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I love you Shy. I hope we always stay friends.